Taste of Freedom - Olympic ceremony part 3

Sexual limitless-ness was a flavour liberally poured over the banquet of the Olympic opening ceremony. The message: we will be happy and united when everyone is free to fulfill their every desire. 

It seemed no dish at the banquet was spared this special sauce. Characters representing the embrace of all manner of sexual expression were throughout. The promise is that if the stifling limitations imposed by religion can be removed, life will taste all the sweeter.

Limits on liberty, however, are oppressive. Just because you don't like a salted caramel on your ice cream, why would you keep someone who does from slathering it on theirs?

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A hundred years ago, however, an athlete at another Olympic Games in Paris was willing to give up dessert altogether. It must have looked crazy to the outsider, but at the 1924 Olympic Games a Scottish athlete ended up having his cake and eating it too.

Paris 1924 & Paris 2024

Having qualified for his first Olympic games in Paris 1924, Eric Liddel athlete chose not to run in his event. He was a 100m specialist, and was the favourite to win gold. Why on earth would he choose not to run? Not because of the opening ceremony, but because the heats for the 400m were scheduled on a Sunday. And Liddel was convinced that it would be dishonouring his God to participate.

Can you imagine a modern athlete even considering this as an option? Even the most ardent Christian? Firstly, it seems like such an arbitrary limitation. What could possibly be wrong with running in a heat on a Sunday? It wouldn't have hurt anyone if he had! 

For Liddel, however, it was simple. He loved running. But he loved God more.

And so he missed his event. The favourite for the gold medal chose not to run. And he was happy about it. It almost seems like the ultimate example of why limiting yourself for God's sake is foolish! And yet, as Tim Costello writes in the guardian:

The plot had a remarkable twist. Eric stayed true to his perceived duty and pulled out of the heats. But then at the last moment his Olympic team entered him in the 400m, not his event nor one for which he had trained. He claimed gold in a world record time of 47.6 seconds. He had fulfilled the duty he felt to a higher calling, willing to sacrifice his specialist event with all his training, but remarkably managed to win anyway.

With God, it can be true that less, is more. Trusting God and exercising restraint, can taste even sweeter than putting on every flavour of syrup you can think of.

Is this what the opening ceremony was about?

This week Christians have wondered and argued about whether their God was mocked. What really happened at the opening ceremony of the Paris Olympics?

What happened?

Having read the interviews, 'apologies', answers and the pre-ceremony advertising, it seems clear that the organisers 100% intended a reference to the Last Supper painting as a religious symbol. (*Edit: the Olympics producers have now confirmed this.)

Artistic Director Thomas Jolly has said that he's really sorry if Christians are offended. In that communication, he emphasised that inclusion was the scene's inspiration and message, not the Last Supper. But he did not deny that he was referencing it.

But... was it mockery? 

Jolly says that mockery was not his intention. And I'm inclined to believe him on this too. Here's my best guess at what was going on.

If not mockery... then what?

France has a long history of secularism. It stretches back to the violent French Revolution against the ancien regime which climaxed in 1789. The ideals of liberty, equality and fraternity replaced older values as the country was dechristianised. In short, the narrative has inclusion as something that France moved on to after Jesus.

If this is the right cultural reference point, Jolly's intentions are a bit easier to see. The message was inclusion, and Da Vinci's Last Supper the old scene that needed correcting. It depicts Jesus sitting with 12 white (presumably straight) men. The company Jesus kept: cis-males wielding religious power. 

Into this scene Jolly interposed characters from all colours of the LGBTQIA+ rainbow. Finally, the table is open now that we've moved on from Jesus.

The problem is, the narrative is simply untrue.

The company Jesus kept

See, if this is what Jolly wanted to communicate, it simply says that he has no idea who Jesus is or what he was like. Criticisms of Jesus' social habits universally agreed that he was too open in his fraternisation, not too closed. You get the feeling that Jesus would have frequented pubs and clubs that Christians and politicians would fear to tread.

'... they say [of me], "Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners." But wisdom is proved right by her deeds.'

In fact, I'm willing to bet that the kind of people Jesus associated with would have made Thomas Jolly hesitant to pull up a seat. See Jesus dined with both prostitutes AND tax collectors. Not only sexual sinners, but financial and political traitors too. Inclusive, even when that was dangerously politically incorrect. Not only when it puts you on the 'right side of history'.

And while Jesus was willing to have a glass of Dom Pérignon with the powerful religious figures of his day, they mostly left his company wanting his head on a platter. He was no friend of the oppressive power structures of his day.

Thomas Jolly seems glad that we've moved on from Jesus so that we can be more inclusive. Yet he's doing so while standing on the shoulders of Jesus who told the parable of the prodigal son, the good Samaritan, etc. Where does Jolly think that the Western world got its views of the value and dignity of all human beings? Because it's certainly not from gods of Greek mythology in purple body paint...

Keeping your grace

The Gottman Institute is a ... well I don't really know what they are. But I do know that they send me emails with insights on and provocative questions about how my marriage is going. And that's pretty cool. It's kind of like what I should be like with my friends but only rarely take the time out to do.

Tonight as I was reading one of their little emails, I was asked, "What's your conflict style? When arguing with your partner, do you have a signature move?" After running through various jokes in my head involving 90s fighting cartoons, I asked Mel what my signature move was.

We worked out that I'm at my worst when I perceive that Mel isn't at her best. So when I feel like she's not engaging in the ways that I'd find most helpful, my frustration can peak into criticism and anger.

As the conversation went on I heard myself saying, "In those moments, I find it hard to keep my cool." But as I heard the words instinctively knew that that wasn't quite what I was trying to say. It's not that I fly off the handle. It's something that's actually worse in a way. Something more fundamentally important. And then it clicked. I don't so much fail to keep my cool. I fail to keep my grace.

'Keeping my grace' is about whatever is coming towards me, I'm compassionately caring for the other person. It's about remembering that my goal in every interaction is to love them. My objective is not to defend myself. It's not to be proved right. It's to love (in my actions) the other person. When I lose this perspective, this approach, all my default learned behaviours kick in. That's when I bring out my signature moves. The most effective fighting strategies I've got, well-honed from years of battles in my family of origin.

So. Just wondering. How are you going at keeping your grace?

I've worked out a few things I need to do to be able to keep my grace. But we can talk about that in another crumb.

This is what Easter means

The following piece began life as an article written by Melissa and myself for a newsletter for an aged care facility. The occasion was Easter 2021.

Lockdown, masks, sanitiser and nasal swabs. This last year has reminded us how inescapably physical we are. That patch of dry skin, cracked from the constant hand washing. Masks that fog up your glasses. The hugs we want but can’t have.

We're powerless to escape our physical bodies and their limitations. And so the protocols rule our lives.

I wonder how the first Easter would have played out had it happened in 2021. Not long having walked out of Joseph of Arimathea’s tomb, Jesus appears to his followers and says to them, “Touch me!”. 

I hope he’s sanitised.

“Touch me and see,” Jesus insists. “A ghost does not have flesh and bones like you see I have.” There’s something about his resurrection that Jesus wants to make sure his followers understand. It’s not just his spirit that they see. It’s his body. The same one that they saw killed days earlier.

“Look at my hands and my feet. It’s me!” (Luke 24:39)

Jesus was not only recognisably himself, but his body was the same one he had before. It was him. Thomas had only to reach out and put his fingers in the holes in Jesus’ hands to confirm it. Not just a spirit, a body. And not just any body, his body.

This isn’t just a curiosity, however. This is the pattern of Spirit-enabled resurrection. 

Jesus’ resurrection life wasn’t an escape from physical existence. Resurrection by the Holy Spirit is the fulfilment of physical existence. You will not leave your body behind, escaping the trappings of everyday life. The resurrected in Christ will pass him the fish and ask him for the salt.

What then for those who can no longer taste? Whose legs no longer work? Whose eyes do not recognise their own children?

They are not looking forward to the simple easing of their pain. Passing from the body and its limitations. Escaping to a world without these things. This is not how it will be for those in Christ. They will glory in the balance of the spices. They will run. And they will recognise their loved ones when they see them.

This is what Easter means.

Happy Easter. 

Why can't we discuss values anymore?

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I'm starting to think that Australians find it hard to discuss values. The plebiscite debacle was a difficult and yet powerful example of what happens when we do. It gets ugly.

And I got to thinking, why? Some would point the finger at elements of toxic tribalism - which certainly plays its part - but what other factors are at play?

I wonder if a combination of scientific naturalism and post-modern cynicism is what's tipped things.

First, we fell in love with science. Fair play too, she's a total babe. And the technological devices she gave birth to are as alluring as she and even more accessible. Science-derived tech has successfully increased human power over over reality at an astounding rate. As the ever eloquent Richard Dawkins put it "it works, bitches". And so, when she speaks, we listen. She has become the arbiter of any truth claim. If you want to know if something is true or not - and a quick google won't suffice - you consult 'science'. It's a given.

Simultaneously, postmodernism's influence has pulled the authority out of any and all truth structures that sit outside of science. Stories, truths and interpretations of data - they're all power grabs that oppress those who come up against them. See the patriarchy and Victorian sexual mores as cases in point.

Which means that when we come to discuss issues that aren't questions of science but of morality, we struggle. Well, we struggle if we find that someone has a different value set to what we do. Or even the same value set but a different context that means we understand and implement them differently.

At this point, we have no recourse. Science does not help us (which doesn't stop us from claiming that its results support our side of the debate) and neither will the insights of philosophy or religion, tainted as they are by the power that their proponents are simply seeking to maintain.

Which leaves us in a difficult place in terms of public debate. We need to discuss our values and where we've got them from. But we don't seem to do that much. We don't go there. I've never heard someone discuss where the idea of the right to define yourself comes from, and why we should have it.

For some reason, we don't seem want to discuss the differences in values that underlie the differences of opinion. Those are off-limits.

Which leaves Pauline Hanson's famous catch phrase "I don't like it" being as coherent an argument as any.

A crumb for when someone is being unreasonable

I'm not the only one who would argue that the West is experiencing a loneliness epidemic. And plenty of people argue that tribalism is causing problems in our global community. Loneliness and tribalism, two of the biggest issues for our civil discourse.

But if we see these two things as linked, it might help make someone that we once thought unreasonable much more understandable.

Many try to find a tribe of people who think like us because we feel it's our best (last and only) hope for connection. And that makes the tribe a precious thing indeed. Which, in turn, makes staying in equally precious. Which makes risking disagreement over the very thing that keeps one included unthinkable. Literally impossible to consciously be aware of, perhaps.

The upshot of this is that much of the overly defensive, non-curious and emotionally charged responses to differing viewpoints are driven not just by tribalism, but by the loneliness that makes belonging to a tribe such a desperate need.

Disconnection (general loneliness) breeding more disconnection (with anyone outside the tribe), for the sake of maintaining what little connection we have (with those inside the tribe). Only, the quality of that connection is lessened for being dependent on total agreement. Unconditional it ain't.

Now there's nothing revolutionary in all this. But I think what it DOES do is to help make understandable the sheer vehemence with which many refuse to 'go against the family'. When from the outsider's perspective it beggars belief and logic to hold to that party line.

Because that family may be all they've got.

So be gracious to them.

Of course, this isn't the only reason people are unreasonable, but if we can demonstrate loving acceptance with individuals - even those who seem unreasonable to our minds - then perhaps connections can form across divides. And that may lead to some small number of people believing in their hearts that they can be loved despite disagreement.

And once being truly known and truly loved happens at the same time... well... anything can happen.

The opportunity the plebiscite gives Christians

Christians in Australia have been given an opportunity by the plebiscite that has been recently announced. But I'm not talking about the opportunity to have our say. I'm not talking about your opportunity to bring about the result that you'd like to see in Australia.

I'm talking about the opportunity to make scared LGBTQI people feel safe and loved by Christians.

And I think it's the most important opportunity that we've had for some time.

According to stories like this one, many within the LGBTQI community are scared. Scared that the plebiscite will be hugely traumatic. So much so that Bill Shorten went on the attack last Thursday, telling Malcolm Turnbull that he will be personally "responsible for every hurtful bit of filth that this debate will unleash." LGBTQI people are are scared of the next few months of debate. And, of course, many of them are us. Members of our churches.

And what many Australians are expecting to hear from the public voices of Christianity is 'hurtful filth'. Things that hurt them to the core. That invalidate their humanity and exclude them from mainstream society.

If I wasn't cisgender and other-sex attracted, I suspect I'd be scared too. And maybe I'd have grown up being scared. I know many same-sex attracted Christians have.

Now the odd dodgy buzzfeed article claims that these fears have already been realised, but I'm not convinced that they have yet. And I'm praying it stays untrue.

You see Christians in Australia have the chance to do something incredible. To show that we don't just claim the name of Jesus, the guy who died for those who opposed him, but that we're also a bit like him. To stand in the storm of disagreement, and to NOT hurl insults, retaliate or belittle. But instead, to seek the welfare of the 'opponent', no matter what.

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Brothers and sisters, we have the power to reduce fear in a sector of our population. To enable scared people to slowly relax and take a breath. And even, perhaps, to feel welcomed and loved. If we ever hope for them to come to trust Jesus, what better way for them to come to think him trustworthy?

I think that this is the great opportunity here, regardless of how you plan to (or not to) vote. Christians cannot control the result of the plebiscite in either direction. But we are fully in control of our behaviour in the discussion in the lead-up to it. How we speak now, for me, will tell me how serious we are about Jesus' mission to seek and save.

Can you imagine what would it be like if LGBTQI people come away from the plebiscite feeling shocked at how Christians cared about them and their lives? At how they listened with care and concern? Can you imagine the surprise if the one thing that was obvious about the Christians speaking to this issue is that they made it their highest priority to love those they're in dialogue with?

This is our great opportunity, sisters and brothers.

It will require a lot of effort. We'll have to care more about the person we're talking to than about getting our point across. We'll have to listen more than we speak. We'll have to check every FB post to see if we'd like the same point made towards us. We'll have to resist straw-manning and

To write this post well would take more time than I've got. And you lot will probably do a better job of writing the rest of it than me anyways. So, in that spirit, I've got a couple of thoughts on what we'll need to do in order to take this opportunity, but I'll need your help to work out the rest.

Think about how it'll be heard

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In a word, we need empathy. Love requires it.

And that means that we need to think on one extra level even about the construction and logic of our arguments. Not just about how we express them.

What this means is that we can't just make arguments that are loving from our perspective, we need to be sensitive to how they're heard. People with a different story for the world will hear different things in different ways, so we need to understand . Which means, as I've said above, we need to listen well and often. Those who hold opposing views will hold them very deeply.

Be careful accusing someone of having an agenda

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Of course people have them. So do you. It's a result of having a story about the world, a vision for the good life. You want everyone else to have it too.

But for every activist with an 'agenda' (like their counterpart on the other 'side' will have one too) there are average LGBTQI folk whose agenda is simply wanting to feel included in society in a full way. Terming a certain group as having an agenda tends to be (a) easy to refute and ridicule and (b) can be seen as targeting people that you didn't intend to.

Loving even if it's unfair

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There may be filth and vitriol slung. But I pray that it's not from Christians. No matter what we perceive the provocation to be. Even if there is completely unfair provocation.

Our model/example/leader/lord is Jesus Christ. Who spent his time on the cross praying that God would forgive the people who were killing him.

Following Jesus leads us to a road far harder than simply treating people who disagree with us fairly, it involves giving them grace. Bestowing on them a level of favour that the situation doesn't call for. That you may not feel that they deserve.

We have the opportunity to walk the road of Christ. To not return anger for anger, insult for insult. But to lovingly plead with God to bless the people who feel that we're against them. Because we're not against them. Right?

This plebiscite is an opportunity to make an entire community surprised by love. How good would that be?

What tips do you have for helping us to love people like Jesus over the next few months?