The opportunity the plebiscite gives Christians

Christians in Australia have been given an opportunity by the plebiscite that has been recently announced. But I'm not talking about the opportunity to have our say. I'm not talking about your opportunity to bring about the result that you'd like to see in Australia.

I'm talking about the opportunity to make scared LGBTQI people feel safe and loved by Christians.

And I think it's the most important opportunity that we've had for some time.

According to stories like this one, many within the LGBTQI community are scared. Scared that the plebiscite will be hugely traumatic. So much so that Bill Shorten went on the attack last Thursday, telling Malcolm Turnbull that he will be personally "responsible for every hurtful bit of filth that this debate will unleash." LGBTQI people are are scared of the next few months of debate. And, of course, many of them are us. Members of our churches.

And what many Australians are expecting to hear from the public voices of Christianity is 'hurtful filth'. Things that hurt them to the core. That invalidate their humanity and exclude them from mainstream society.

If I wasn't cisgender and other-sex attracted, I suspect I'd be scared too. And maybe I'd have grown up being scared. I know many same-sex attracted Christians have.

Now the odd dodgy buzzfeed article claims that these fears have already been realised, but I'm not convinced that they have yet. And I'm praying it stays untrue.

You see Christians in Australia have the chance to do something incredible. To show that we don't just claim the name of Jesus, the guy who died for those who opposed him, but that we're also a bit like him. To stand in the storm of disagreement, and to NOT hurl insults, retaliate or belittle. But instead, to seek the welfare of the 'opponent', no matter what.

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Brothers and sisters, we have the power to reduce fear in a sector of our population. To enable scared people to slowly relax and take a breath. And even, perhaps, to feel welcomed and loved. If we ever hope for them to come to trust Jesus, what better way for them to come to think him trustworthy?

I think that this is the great opportunity here, regardless of how you plan to (or not to) vote. Christians cannot control the result of the plebiscite in either direction. But we are fully in control of our behaviour in the discussion in the lead-up to it. How we speak now, for me, will tell me how serious we are about Jesus' mission to seek and save.

Can you imagine what would it be like if LGBTQI people come away from the plebiscite feeling shocked at how Christians cared about them and their lives? At how they listened with care and concern? Can you imagine the surprise if the one thing that was obvious about the Christians speaking to this issue is that they made it their highest priority to love those they're in dialogue with?

This is our great opportunity, sisters and brothers.

It will require a lot of effort. We'll have to care more about the person we're talking to than about getting our point across. We'll have to listen more than we speak. We'll have to check every FB post to see if we'd like the same point made towards us. We'll have to resist straw-manning and

To write this post well would take more time than I've got. And you lot will probably do a better job of writing the rest of it than me anyways. So, in that spirit, I've got a couple of thoughts on what we'll need to do in order to take this opportunity, but I'll need your help to work out the rest.

Think about how it'll be heard

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In a word, we need empathy. Love requires it.

And that means that we need to think on one extra level even about the construction and logic of our arguments. Not just about how we express them.

What this means is that we can't just make arguments that are loving from our perspective, we need to be sensitive to how they're heard. People with a different story for the world will hear different things in different ways, so we need to understand . Which means, as I've said above, we need to listen well and often. Those who hold opposing views will hold them very deeply.

Be careful accusing someone of having an agenda

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Of course people have them. So do you. It's a result of having a story about the world, a vision for the good life. You want everyone else to have it too.

But for every activist with an 'agenda' (like their counterpart on the other 'side' will have one too) there are average LGBTQI folk whose agenda is simply wanting to feel included in society in a full way. Terming a certain group as having an agenda tends to be (a) easy to refute and ridicule and (b) can be seen as targeting people that you didn't intend to.

Loving even if it's unfair

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There may be filth and vitriol slung. But I pray that it's not from Christians. No matter what we perceive the provocation to be. Even if there is completely unfair provocation.

Our model/example/leader/lord is Jesus Christ. Who spent his time on the cross praying that God would forgive the people who were killing him.

Following Jesus leads us to a road far harder than simply treating people who disagree with us fairly, it involves giving them grace. Bestowing on them a level of favour that the situation doesn't call for. That you may not feel that they deserve.

We have the opportunity to walk the road of Christ. To not return anger for anger, insult for insult. But to lovingly plead with God to bless the people who feel that we're against them. Because we're not against them. Right?

This plebiscite is an opportunity to make an entire community surprised by love. How good would that be?

What tips do you have for helping us to love people like Jesus over the next few months?

When we perpetuate the abuse our God hates

I felt a particular type of awkward shame when reading Julia Baird and Hayley Gleeson's latest piece on domestic violence and religion. Objective in its reporting yet damning in its implications, the report threw a spotlight on both tender and tinder spots for Australian churches. 

Failing to listen to victims of domestic violence. Perpetuating cultures that keep them in silence. When someone summons the courage to finally speak, failure to support and protect them. Actively advising the vulnerable to stay in dangerous (often deadly) situations. A dearth of sermons preached against domestic violence, among the multitude preached on female submission within marriage.

It makes for grim reading. It was released ahead of the issue being broached on the 7:30 report tonight.

But perhaps the most disquieting and shameful part of the report for me as a pastor was that it found that ministers would frequently use bible verses to tell victims that they need to stay in dangerous situations to honour God. And that with no protection offered by the church.

One of three types of texts that the report found were used to justify these spiritual exhortations were "verses that say God hates divorce". Now the verse in the bible that actually uses those words (depending on the translation) is Malachi 2:16. It goes something like this.

For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the Lord of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

Now there are a few different translations possible of that verse, but whichever is right one thing is clear: the reason that God hated Israelite men divorcing their wives was because it did violence to them. This can't be a pretext to allow violence to continue. The point of this verse is to ensure that male violence towards wives will cease.

There were many reasons why divorcing a wife in that culture did violence to her, but you don't need to be an expert in ancient culture to see that poor treatment of wives by husbands is God's point. It's what the whole passage is about.

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favour on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands.  

You ask, “Why?” 

It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

Malachi's prophecy on God's hatred of divorce is an outworking of God's hatred of husbands committing violence against their wives. It is God stepping in and saying, "Not now, not ever" to his people. For any pastor to use this text to force a wife and/or her children to stay in an unsafe situation has missed the point of the bible, and so has missed the heart of God.

Now to say this doesn't mean that divorce is the first step. Or even a necessary step in every situation. Or even a desirable step.

However it is clear that the duty of the church and its leaders is to stand between the victim and the abuser in cases like this, as God does in Malachi. To bind up the wounded and to call the abuser to repentance. To follow the example of Jesus, not only in living gently and kindly in all our own personal relationships, but to, self-sacrificially if necessary, stand between victims of abuse and violence.

The power of multiple stories

One thing that the Christian faith has always had going for it is that it's had room for multiple stories for the same set of facts.

For example, the book of Joshua reads as if Israel was totally victorious, whereas Judges paints a picture of a nation dogged on all sides by her enemies and her errors. Different stories from the same time and place, different overall impression. 

Samuel, Kings and Chronicles have many stories and characters in common, yet there's a different slant on each character or event depending on the source. Multiple 'stories' for the same events.

Not content with this level of nuance, however, the Bible goes even further at its central event: the death and resurrection of Jesus. For this one set of events, we're furnished with a myriad of different metaphors to convey its meaning: Jesus as ransom, Jesus as redeemer, Jesus as propitiation, Jesus victorious cosmic warrior, Jesus as perfect example and so on. The exact same event being loaded with multiple 'meanings'.

The Bible and (largely) Christians are ok with this. In fact, it's a part of the richness of the Christian faith that has seen it minister to the souls of millions for over 2,000 years across every cultural, racial and temporal barrier we know. It's the telling of these different stories that nourishes and forms those who would follow after Jesus in laying down their lives to bless others.

This, I think, shows us modern Australians a way forward as we grapple with the complex nature of our identity and history. Particularly, in the controversy of how to celebrate our national day.

In so many ways, Australia is a place of multiple stories. Different stories about the same time and place that give different impressions to each other. Of multiple 'stories' for the same events. Of the exact same event being loaded with multiple meanings.

Australia is this legitimately. Understandably. Truthfully.

I think this means that if we are to have a truly 'Australia' Day, then it can only be a day where these different stories are told. Stories of dispossession side by side with stories of refuge and hope. Stories of ancient belonging next to stories of proud domination. Stories of thankfulness alongside dirges of mourning.

Australia is all of these stories. Should not the character of our day be the telling of them? A day of national storytelling. As they're told and as they're heard, we would in turn cry and laugh. We would be aghast and then relieved. We would hurt and hug. Together. And perhaps, through the rugged experience of telling our stories and being heard, together come to a peace.

If all Australia Day celebrations were storytelling events of multiple stories, I think it would change us.

I don't know on which day this should happen. I suspect some whose stories are of dislocation, loss and disorientation would prefer to tell those stories on a different day than the 26th. But I can't help but wonder if the pain of that day is the reason it's the day to hear exactly those stories. I suspect many would tell them.

If we invite them. And if we turn our ear to listen.